30 Day Do It Programs Featured — 07 April 2011
The 30-Day Self-Love Challenge: Reloaded

The 30-Day Self-Love Challenge: Reloaded is a journey over 129 men and women are on where we take on one action a day to ensure we are taking time for ourselves. It was created by Fastgirls and Founder of Gye Nyame Empowerment Project, Akua Soadwa. It is perfect for the over-worked parent, the burdened employee, the heartbroken Single person, the mourning child, the struggling student, the stressed community leader and the metaphysical philosopher. It started two days ago, but you can get into it and catch up easily. For example, Day One was to create a Self-Love Jar and Day Two was to say 5 loving things to yourself in the mirror. You have until 11:59PM tonight to join us by completing the form linked below. That simple. (I know, my bad I didn’t get this to you sooner!) It doesn’t cost anything to join us; however, you may incur costs to do a few of the things (wearing a flower on your clothing or in your hair).

Akua will send you the list of things to do after you complete the linked form below. If you think it is something other women in your life would love, please send their way and have them join you! You’ll be added to a google-group to hear from others about how this is impacting their lives and you are encouraged to share (that you can request to be removed from if all the love is too much for your inbox).

The in-take form MUST be completed by 11:59pm Weds, April 6th.

Akua aka “the Activator” Presents
Re-Loaded: 30-Day Self-Love Challenge (Round 2)
Monday, April 4, 2011 though Wednesday, May 4, 2011.


Too often I have found myself seeking refuge in someone else to fulfill me – to make me happy – to motivate me to do this, and to do that. I have complained about others not being committed (to their word, to their work, to me, to…you name it). I have been frustrated with others not being committed to me, not doing what they said they would do, not being there for me the way they said they would be there for me.

However I had no idea that the very thing we are most frustrated with can be, and often is, a direct result of what we ourselves are not doing – for ourselves. We often look outside of ourselves to be fulfilled, and if we continue to do this, we will continue to fight a never-ending battle, and therefore we will never be satisfied, we will never be fulfilled because we expect someone else to be the source of our own happiness and well-being.


The first challenge I created was March 1 – March 30, 2011.

40 women committed to being a part of the challenge. We hailed from Brooklyn, the Bronx, Cleveland, Baltimore, Seattle, DC, Philly, Queens Village (NY) and Cairo (Egypt)! We went in!

The feedback I received during and after the challenge was so positive that I am at it again! A lot of us – me included – really saw the added value of choosing ourselves on a regular basis and we also experienced how our interactions with others shifted as a result of it. However, some of us still felt like we haven’t quite mastered the art of choosing self. We know that continuous practice will do the trick! So here we are – back at it again – inviting more of our loved ones to join in the challenge with us!


This challenge is about choosing ourselves first. It is about loving ourselves so that we can generate our own sense of joy at any moment, regardless of our circumstance, and regardless if someone wants to join in with us. This challenge is about standing inside of our commitment to ourselves. This challenge is an opportunity for us to commit to ourselves so that we can stop complaining about why others aren’t committed to, or committing to us. As soon as we are committed to ourselves, others will be committed to us. As soon as we love ourselves, we will only attract love.

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